Friday, February 29, 2008

truth...

I have said this many times before and it holds true year after year: every word that comes out of my mouth is meant for me. What I mean by that is there really are no accidents and if a client or friend needs coaching in a certain area I need it too, or the opportunity to creatively deal with it would not be laid in my lap.
This week I have met with various egos, once in the form of denial, once in the form of outright lies and once in the form of the victim. All areas that I need to pay attention to.
I find denial likes to hide out inside my health and fitness goals, telling me that I can deal with distractions, or that I can miss another workout and still get back on the horse easily. My ego uses outright lies when someone asks me how I am and I tell them 'wonderful' when it is the furthest thing from the truth and I know it, but I don't want to bother others with my feelings. Of course this feeds perfectly into the state of 'victim' because it allows my ego to fill my head with such garbage as, 'no one cares how I really am', or 'can't they see that I am hurting?' or any number of other BS statements that are designed to keep me from connecting, really authentically connecting, with the people who love me.

So, now is the time for some truth....
1) I am in control of what happens to me.
2) I am surrounded by loving, compassionate people who are concerned for my welfare.
3) Support is simply a spoken or written word away.
4) I am capable of ANYTHING, my life is limitless.
5) Whatever I need, to accomplish my goals, is already within me.

My commitment to me is that when I forget these truths I will come back here and read this or ask a wonderful friend to remind me, because another truth is that the ego slips in occasionally and tries to make minced meat of our dreams and goals, and it happens to everyone. We are not meant to handle this stuff alone, we are meant to reach out and enroll our fellow man in our struggles, our dreams, our desires, our lives. We are meant to make authentic, powerful, loving connections with each other.
It is so true that no 'wo/man' is an island. We are surrounded by millions of people for a reason...remember what I said a paragraph ago? ...there really are no accidents.

Much Much Love and Happy Happy Friday!
Alison

Monday, February 25, 2008

What makes a life Joyful?

Friends….wonderful friends. One of the many blessings in my life is my amazing friends. They let me know I am loved, remind me of my worth and put huge smiles on my face. This week I am thinking about authentic joy. Moments of pure authentic joy are a goal for me, I want to string together as many as I can in my lifetime. Friends who open their hearts and let me in, remind me of what life is really about, connecting, sharing, inspiring and loving each other. Making the kind of connections wherein I am comfortable being vulnerable is one of the most precious and joyous gifts in my life. Yesterday a dear friend massaged a nasty kink out of my neck, another sent three messages to my phone during her busy day trying to connect, each time noting that she missed me. Another friend/family member cooked me a delicious meal and made me feel incredibly welcomed in his home, even though I had dropped by unannounced just to say hi. Those are the moments that make me grateful and when I am feeling gratitude it is the closest thing to real joy that I know. The smile on my daughters tired face as I picked her up from her Dad’s birthday party, the bear hug he gave me when I wished him happy birthday, there are so many reasons to celebrate my life if I simply take a moment and take stock. Each moment is a chance to feel joy, each moment is a choice to feel joy. My life is beautiful, it is what I make it and it is a constant learning experience, filled with tiny moments of authentic joy. Why, because today I make it so, what are you making today?

Much Love,

Alison

Tuesday, February 19, 2008

The Law of Attraction in my life...

Last night I attended a Law of Attraction class at Life on Fire. It was wonderful to be reminded that I am always attracting, even if I am not aware of it. It was also wonderful to meet some new people and to reconnect with some old friends.
The more I make the effort to stay in the conversation of transformation the more rewards I reap. Rewards like heightened self-awareness, feelings of incredible gratitude, and powerful connections with my fellow human beings.
One thing I know is that people crave connection, they want to share their stories and they want to find what they feel is missing in their lives. These powerful motivators are part of the reason I do the work that I do, to facilitate that connection, that 'aha' moment when we realize that we are not alone, that what we are doing matters and that who we are being in the matter of our lives is a very important question for personal growth.
The Law of Attraction helps me to see how much I am the controller of my life, the driver of the bus and the creator of my happiness or my misery. The idea that I create everything in my life is actually a freeing one, in that I no longer have to figure out whose fault anything is, I just have to look inside and adjust from there. Not always an easy task, but man, is it a rewarding one!
Much Love,
Alison

Thursday, February 14, 2008

Happy Valentine's Day!

Hey there,
My darling daughter Emily showed me a hilarious non-valentine card she made for her friend yesterday. Basically, it said that Valentine's is a bogus commercialized holiday and she was not going to acknowledge it but she wanted to say I LOVE YOU anyway. The language may have been a tad more colorful but...that was the gist. Once again Emily got it. You see it doesn't matter what you think of the holiday or the things you are pushed to purchase or the excuse for going out to dinner and all the other stuff that Valentine's Day has come to represent because what the day really is, is a chance to honour the LOVE in your life. That's it. However you choose to do that will work just fine. Today, for me, is about preparing a delicious meal for my family, the people I can count on in my life, no matter what. Its about making sure my daughter knows how much I cherish her, and it's about treating myself with LOVE and respect. Actually stopping for a minute today and feeling the love that is in the world for me, the love that is always there that sometime I forget; now that is a reason to celebrate!
Last night at the WORTH program Tina Olivero was the guest speaker and she delivered a powerful message. She reminded each of us that we are limitless and the only thing that ever causes suffering is when we forget that. What a loving, powerful and inspirational lesson! Thanks Tina.
We also discussed further how our individual conversations of the ego play out in our lives and started a personalized action plan to remind us to live from our place of divine power and not from our ego.
It is such a privilege and an honour to stand in front of this class each week and shed a little more light on the idea that we can live the life of our dreams. Thanks for showing up and thanks for doing the work, and thanks for being yet another source of amazing LOVE in my life!
LOVE,
Alison
xo

Friday, February 8, 2008

Questions....

Happy Friday!
First let me say I have cleared up the issue with having to be registered before leaving a comment. Thanks to those of you who pointed that out to me. Anyone can now leave a comment without registering or any other criteria.

This week at The WORTH Program we asked some really powerful questions around the issue of loving ourselves. Here are some of the questions we asked:

If you respected yourself deeply what choices would you make today?

Where in your life are you in denial?

Do you take full responsibility for everything that happens in your life?

And instead of constantly asking things like 'what's wrong with me?' We decided to change that question every time we hear it to 'what's RIGHT with me?'

The idea is that we get an accurate snapshot by asking questions like these of how we are loving ourselves on a daily basis. It also a way to recognize what needs attention and a way to acknowledge what we already do that demonstrates our self-love.

The other way questions can be valuable tools in the cultivation of self-worth is to use them to question our limiting beliefs. After all, a belief is nothing more than a thought that you are certain of. A certainty is nothing more than a thought that goes without question. So if you started questioning things you were certain of, maybe you could change your beliefs? Let's try it.

If I believe that 'losing weight is hard' and I back up that belief with the memory of numerous failed attempts and I throw in, for good measure, the experiences of a number of close friends who have also experienced failed attempts, then I would be pretty certain that losing weight was indeed hard. If I never question that belief then it remains intact but if I decide to challenge it with a few questions like: 'what about that woman I met who said losing weight was an incredibly positive experience for her?', or ' if you really like exercising and eating nutritious food, is losing weight still hard?'

Answering these questions can and does have an incredibly powerful impact on our ability to create what we want in our lives because the only thing that ever stops us is a limiting belief. Am I more likely to lose weight if I believe it is hard, or if I believe it is easy? hmmmmm.....

If you are struggling with an area of your life try nailing down your beliefs about it and then ask those beliefs some powerful questions, chances are they wont hold up to the interrogation, instead they will crumble in the face of glorious limitless possibilities.

Have a wicked weekend!
Alison
xo

Thursday, February 7, 2008

Pull a 'Nike' and Just Do It....

Hi Friends,

As is the case most of the time, as soon as I suggest a course of action for someone dealing with something challenging, a situation arises with the opportunity for me to put my 'money where my mouth is'. For instance a few times in the last weeks I have been coaching in the area of letting things go, having faith and realizing that everything is exactly as it is supposed to be. Like most spiritual principles, these are excellent theories, the practice of which, for the most part, has been much harder to develop.

In fact, I have been reading spiritual literature and listening to motivational speakers and self-help teachers for over 15 years and although I have agreed whole heartedly with most of what I have read I have rarely, until more recent years, practiced what they suggest. I know too from my clients and the participants of my seminars and classes that people rarely follow through on suggested exercises. So what does it take to act?

Well if you're like me a sense of spinning wheels might do it. I remember thinking as I perused the self-help section yet again that there couldn't possibly be anything else here for me to read. I had most of the books if not in print then on CD and the ideas for the most part were a recycled version of each other...so, what exactly was I looking for? It was an epiphany because I left empty handed and went home to look at my bookshelves with new eyes. Doing the exercises, starting the journals, actively taking part in what the author wanted to share was an incredible experience, I felt my attitudes and thought patterns changing almost immediately. It was then that I went from agreeing with them to understanding them.

As I look in the eyes of some of the beautiful and courageous participants I meet with each week I see the same longing, a desire to understand more deeply the wisdom of The WORTH Program and I hope that they will see that it is through action that one becomes a participant in the creation of their own self-worth, as I have become in mine.

Much Love,
Alison