Friday, February 29, 2008


I have said this many times before and it holds true year after year: every word that comes out of my mouth is meant for me. What I mean by that is there really are no accidents and if a client or friend needs coaching in a certain area I need it too, or the opportunity to creatively deal with it would not be laid in my lap.
This week I have met with various egos, once in the form of denial, once in the form of outright lies and once in the form of the victim. All areas that I need to pay attention to.
I find denial likes to hide out inside my health and fitness goals, telling me that I can deal with distractions, or that I can miss another workout and still get back on the horse easily. My ego uses outright lies when someone asks me how I am and I tell them 'wonderful' when it is the furthest thing from the truth and I know it, but I don't want to bother others with my feelings. Of course this feeds perfectly into the state of 'victim' because it allows my ego to fill my head with such garbage as, 'no one cares how I really am', or 'can't they see that I am hurting?' or any number of other BS statements that are designed to keep me from connecting, really authentically connecting, with the people who love me.

So, now is the time for some truth....
1) I am in control of what happens to me.
2) I am surrounded by loving, compassionate people who are concerned for my welfare.
3) Support is simply a spoken or written word away.
4) I am capable of ANYTHING, my life is limitless.
5) Whatever I need, to accomplish my goals, is already within me.

My commitment to me is that when I forget these truths I will come back here and read this or ask a wonderful friend to remind me, because another truth is that the ego slips in occasionally and tries to make minced meat of our dreams and goals, and it happens to everyone. We are not meant to handle this stuff alone, we are meant to reach out and enroll our fellow man in our struggles, our dreams, our desires, our lives. We are meant to make authentic, powerful, loving connections with each other.
It is so true that no 'wo/man' is an island. We are surrounded by millions of people for a reason...remember what I said a paragraph ago? ...there really are no accidents.

Much Much Love and Happy Happy Friday!

1 comment:

Gordon said...

Thank you for your column.
I learned something this past week - we cannot maintain our own transformation. We maintain it in a community of people who are also transformed. Living a transformed life is a lot different from being transformed - most of the time I am not there either - listening to the voice in my head as truth - not so today - i reached out a wrote a touched some friends with acknowledgement. Thank you for sharing.