Tuesday, March 18, 2008

why don't we do it?

Why, when we say we want something, do we not do what is necessary to achieve it?

Sometimes it is the habit of procrastination that keeps us from our goals. You know, that habit we have of putting things off until tomorrow and then until never; it's during these times that we are choosing to listen to the ego...that's all it really is. But when our goals linger farther and farther from our reach isn't time to ask ourselves what is that tiny voice costing us?!

The thing about procrastination is that it is like a virus that runs silently in the background. If you tune into the crap it feeds you to stay alive, you hear things like: "that's ok, it will wait until tomorrow", "you deserve a break, you worked hard today, don't bother following through on your commitments, you need a rest instead," and variations on that same dream destroying theme. Often it will be subtle and almost loving as it convinces you to crap out on your commitments and let your goals fly out the window.

Sometimes it is our low sense of self-worth that keeps us from trying. Even though, that too is nothing more than a conversation of the ego, and when you know that, you are again choosing to listen. That conversation will be similar to procrastination but might include things like, “listen, you know you are never going to accomplish that goal so why are you bothering to make it in the first place?” or “You've never been able to get what you wanted so why do you even try?” or “What are you thinking? You're not the kind of person who can create a life you love, that is only for other, more confident, more beautiful, more thin, more intelligent people.”

See how the ego aims to keep us separate from our dreams and goals and separate from others by telling us that we are different, less than, or more than, or whatever other crap it can come up with to have us believe that we are unworthy?

No matter what you are attempting, whether it be big or small, or it’s the first time or the 50th time, know that you can accomplish anything if you tune out the ego and start listening to the conversation of what is possible. The ego and its negative conversation is our default so we must, in order to become aware of it, work on that awareness (the WORTH Program is an excellent place for that!). We must replace the negative with the positive and from there keep our goals and desires in sight. Paste them to the wall, make a vision board, put them up as screensavers, whatever you have to do to constantly remind yourself that you can do anything, then that is what you do.


And listen, don't make this difficult, it can be as simple as a sentence you read to yourself every day, so don't let your ego tell you it can't be done.....refuse to listen. Instead, listen to the words in one of my favorite quotes: Things are only impossible until they're not. - Jean-Luc Picard

Much Love,
Alison




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