Sunday, August 17, 2008


I watched a dear friend watch her Mom pass away this week and marveled at her strength. It didn’t appear as hard or tough or stoic or convicted, it appeared as grace. It was one of the most beautiful things I have ever seen.
Speaking with her the day her Mom passed away she said that her spiritual practice and journey had been preparing her for this moment. So true.
I have often said when coaching or presenting that ‘life is easy when it is easy’. Most of what I teach has nothing to do with easy. It is about finding out what you are made of in the challenging times.
Watching my friend’s remarkable ability to simple ‘be with’ her Mom as she passed from this life to the next was a gift. Most of us are very uncomfortable with death; we need to constantly distract ourselves from what is really going on. What I witnessed this week was the payoff of becoming self-aware, letting go of judgment, being accepting, and truly connecting with the people you love.
Creating a life based on spiritual principal’s means we get to be present to everything that is happening; we get to ‘be with’ people on a level that is rarely seen, even when they are healthy and available. These ways of being ultimately enhance our life experience by enabling us to take part fully in every moment, by providing us comfort when we grieve and like my friend, being able to be a part of your Mom’s passing and “have no regrets”.

My wise and wonderful friend found it interesting that each person took her Mom’s death and made it mean what they needed it to. I guess we are all looking for meaning in life and ironically death can provide huge meaning.
For me, I am making this mean that life is incredibly precious, that death is natural and can be graceful and beautiful and that every opportunity to connect with friends and family is a gift and an honour, things that as I grow and witness more frequently the cycle of life and death, I take less and less lightly.
Much Love,

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